I have these 2 friends ... no really, I do ... They are my rocks, my cheerleaders (minus the skirts), my inspirations, my voices of reason when mine is mute (or gagged), my babysitters, my sounding boards, my co-conspirators, my co-defendants (not yet, but give us time) ... anyway ... They have their own pain issues too (1 has ol' lady knees and the other has an ol' lady back) but those two goofballs give me strength!! Now here's where this gets tricky, because they will tell you that I'm the one that gives them strength and inspiration. They. Are. Dumb. I cannot be who I am and do what I do without them in my life ... every day!! They make me fight when I think I can't go on and they call me "bitch" and mean it!! But when those 2 say it, it is said with all of the love, respect and admiration that 3 friends can share. We call it like we see it with each other ... and without all of the cattiness and backstabbing that goes along with most female friendships. I have never said this about 1 friend, let alone 2 ... but I need them both desperately!! Two of us live in the same town and try to see each other at least once a week. The other lives a kadrillion miles away in another state. So we Facebook. We have a series of group messages that is longer than my left leg ... and that's just over the last 10 days. We share stories about the idiots, our families, our dogs, our frustrations, freakin hilarious jokes and auto-correct "fails" that are not appropriate to put on our walls, we ask for input and advice and we practice the fine art of Verbal Regurgitation.
Yet another Jenn-ism, Verbal Regurgitation is the practice of venting about a certain current situation or insecurity just to get it off of our chest so we can get over it, forget about it, and get on with our day. And might I just add that it is very effective!! It is the only venue where I don't give a crap about grammar, spelling, and punctuation. It is a full blown rant. Usually, we use all of the cuss words in our arsenals, caps locks, and we go ballistic with exclamation points and question marks. V.R. is the best psychological and emotional therapy that I know of. And a hell of a lot cheaper!! So if you can get your hands on 1 or 2 good friends who know when to keep their mouths shut and when to give advice, I highly recommend the practice of Verbal Regurgitation!!
To date, there is only one man that has been able to handle the 3 of us when we're together. We have nicknamed him "Bosley" and we are his "Angels". This man is ah-mazing!! A couple of weeks ago we had a pretty heavy snow storm. I'm pretty sure you can guess how that cold and wind was making me feel. Whether I want to be or not, I am an early riser unless I'm in an abundance of pain. On this particular morning, I slept in until 6:30. After doing the Frankenstein Crawl to my living room, I opened the blinds expecting to find this perfect blanket of white shit across my whole front yard. What I saw instead, were damp sidewalks and walkways with 6" walls of snow on the sides, and tufts of shoveled snow in the yard. 5 minutes later I get a text from Bosley telling me to stay inside and stay warm. He took care of my walks before he went in to work. And that's just one thing that he does for me!! He's a great friend and confidant to my girls too. We LOVE him!!!
If you don't have friends like mine, get some!! If you can't get them on your own, buy them!! Do SOMETHING!!! Whether you're and RSDer or an RSD Caregiver, friends like these guys are imperative to our sanity!! They give freely, listen closely, and ask nothing in return. To my Angels and Bosley, you know who you are and you know how much I love you. I thank God for you 3 every single day. If you ever leave me I will hunt you down and bludgeon you with the remnants of my 20 yr anniversary of dealing with RSD ... you know, the FURSD Day extravaganza?? Yeah, I'll beat y'all with it!! You're stuck with me!!
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